Are you ready to call in your Big Love?
Want to add some steamy romance to your relationship?
Have you done ALL the personal development but still feel like there’s a missing puzzle piece? Like the confidence, self-expression & freedom you're looking for... is always one more program away?
Start your summer off right, with...
Love, Lust & Romance
of the Self
A six-week DIY/LIVE combo course, for women who want to plug back in and turn ON their radiance.
What is Self-Lust?
We all know self-love is essential. Especially when it comes to confidence and healthy relationships.
But without romance, how do you know that you’re loved?
In self-love, who’s responsible for the courtship? The adoration? The wooing?
And forget gifts, quality time, or words of affirmation…
What would a great love look like without desire?
Without the teasing, flirtation, anticipation and excitement of sexual pleasure and all of its delights??
We know the value of self-love – it ripples out into your relationships, your life purpose, and your ability to make money…
But self-LUST is even more important...
If self-love helps you attract a big love...
then self-lust helps you attract a partner you’ll want to climb on top of for the rest of your life.
If self-love fills your life with compassion and gratitude...
then self-lust connects you to your passion and desire.
Self-lust is about turning on your light.
It's NRE (New Relationship Energy) for yourself.
That aliveness and thrill that gives you the energy to get home from an exhausting day at work, wash, dress and beautify, rush out the door to a hot dinner date, get lost in conversation until the restaurant closes... and then stay up all night making out like teenagers, and multiple-orgasming like a goddess.
Where does the energy come from?? It comes from your turn-on. And it's available any time you want.
It's not just about love, sex & romance.
Self-lust is your connection to creation... eros... lifeforce energy.
It ignites the spark of joy that brings your best ideas.
The enjoyment that carries you through the "I suck at this" stage of learning something new...
The confidence & resilience to do difficult things, so you can become the person you want to be.
The passion that stamps out your fear of failure, so you can persist no matter how many attempts it takes.
Self-lust makes you enchanting & magnetic to other people, because it is so extremely rare.
Self-lust manifests as riches in your life because when you learn to surrender and receive pleasure, you can surrender and receive from the universe.
Self-lust activates your self-love and makes it palpable, potent and real. It connects you to your worth & power. When you learn how to turn yourself ON, no one can take that away from you. Never again will you need to look outside yourself for validation. Every answer you'll ever need is literally at your fingertips.
Feedback from Love Lust & Romance of the Self:
It was like a nuclear blast of self-love, and it leveled everything and totally created a whole new field.
After the call I went to [work] and I felt so confident, empowered and bright, and in return everyone was drawn to me and had a good time just being in my company!
I have been doing it each morning with ease. I am finding [the homework] questions very easy to answer – they do not actually require THINKING – I already know the answer, it just needs to get past my lips. This is a really gentle way to teach me how to put caring attention on myself.
I just want to celebrate with you that my paradigm is totally changing and my mindset work has shifted, my headspace and my reality... The self lust, course last week sped everything up.
First of all, I want to say that I've never experienced the safety of [these practices] in the company of other women, and that felt so incredible. It felt mystical. It felt like so much more became possible. I felt safe, and I'm not even talking sexually, I'm talking about in life.
I really, I really got the magic that I've been reading about, and trying to get into, with Mama Gena stuff and Academy [of Power] stuff. Somehow being in the company of other women and learning and enjoying, it shifted something for me, and I felt like my power was returning to me.
And it's so weird because we use these terms – like before this experience, I would use these terms, these same terms – but now that I've had the experience, all the terms mean something even more deep. It really felt like it felt like power was returning to me.
…it is sticking with me and adding a layer of awareness that I am very glad to have. There is some kind of peace to seeing that romancing myself really could be easy.
I wanted to experience feeling safe, safe, safe, safe when talking about self-romance, to feel excited about my self-romance journey and to experience self-romance as already mine. Within a few minutes you had said something that provided a sense of safety…
the whole vibe of class is so super relaxed, so a tiny bite sized piece is so perfectly suited. Especially if we're all being invited to just try some things - a tiny bite is enough to know if I want to do more ♥
I did NOT want to stop.
I found out just how delicious it feels to give myself my own full attention from a place of exploration, relaxation and IN COMMUNITY. I don't think I would have done this all by myself - doing so would have triggered my critical voice and procrastinator for sure!
I had the realization that I can access confidence whenever I practice self love/lust, and what a powerful tool it is, especially if I am feeling anxious about a particular interaction with others (like at a work meeting or an event where I normally feel vulnerable and insecure). Self lust practice is a cure for insecurity!!
This was not scary, and I had fun.
It was really powerful for me.
What I what I wish from somebody else, I can do that for myself, and I've never really thought about it like that. So that's gonna stick with me.
I got just as much from the other participants sharing as I did from Kate.
My love for myself is based on something that's not an external, patriarchal thing, and it's not dependent on what I look like, it's not dependent on how old I am. It’s not dependent on my circumstances, and it's totally part of me. I really want to remember that, because that’s something I can really hold on to.
It's not about sexy, it's about playing… I really want to master that, that tease, because it's really fun. And I had been thinking it was sexual, and that was keeping me from getting into it. But now that I don't think of it as sexual anymore… I can go there.
I am learning how to be this for myself. It felt so good to be asked and then to listen - it felt like I mattered.
The exercises were also nice and easy - a little bit of writing, some dance breaks - familiar, comfortable, relaxing, enjoyable, soothing. Perfection.
I really like the idea of being in seduction mode with myself as an ongoing thing.
This answered a question I didn't know I had. And reminded me that I can choose when and where I do it for myself.
You opened the door and I could see the possibilities through that door.
Also... [it was] EASY to do and provides good information - I can tell this even in doing it for the first time ever.
I am sure that I have HEARD this before, but tonight it really sank in differently and deeply - maybe because of how relaxed I already am and noticing that I had ZERO fear of this workshop. I really like this version of myself.
I've been struggling with turn on. And it did shift that for me – I woke up much more langorous and relaxed.
You have a very open and friendly approach to topics that can feel very heavy when one is in the middle of them.
Course Details
WHAT
Love, Lust & Romance of the Self, is a six-week course where you will learn how to tap into your inner turn-on, and connect with your center of power.
This is a live/DIY combo, that includes:
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Three 90-minute video lessons & workbooks... alternated with three weeks of practice and integration prompts (6-weeks total)
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Three live group coaching calls/month to get support and witnessing around your transformation
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Three live co-working calls/month to actually stay accountable to yourself for workbooks and practicing the tools.
- One private 1:1 coaching call with Kate, to troubleshoot your specific challenges, and get some extra juice!
Value of $1125 – this is a limited-edition course that
will be open for a limited time only in 2025.
BONUSES
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Bonus audio lesson, designed to unlock your resistance around timing, birthing your desires, and your unique creative process.
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Bonus lifetime access to the LUST for LIFE activation replay: how to get turned on about your goals, even when they're taking f*cking forever
- Bonus transformational podcast "Why we say the word p*ssy"
WHAT IT IS NOT
Curious but hesitant?
Let me calm your fears of the awkwardness and cringe.
This course will not involve:
- nudity
- pu$$y-gazing
- sex-magick (i.e. we will not be masturbating together on zoom!)
LOL as much as I approve of all of the above, this is a simple workshop format that will be fun and light-hearted, while still giving you access to your own source of sensuality... first-timers, have no fear!
You will not have to speak in the live calls, or reveal anything intimate that you don't feel comfortable sharing. Even as a silent observer, you can gain everything you need from this workshop!
If you have questions, message me – I am happy to answer.
Does this sound like you?
THIS WORKSHOP IS FOR YOU IF:
You're a seeker.
You've been working on your personal development, emotional healing, confidence and self-esteem... But even when you learn and excel, it still feels like something is missing. You've done all the things. You've read all the books. Your toolbox is overflowing... but you can't seem to find what you're looking for.
You're good at your work, and you're smart and capable... but you don't have the confidence to be fully yourself. Sometimes you achieve your goals, but they never feel the way you thought they would. You thought by this stage in life, you'd finally be free, but it's almost like the opposite is happening... You've lost the wildness of your youth, and you keep finding more things that need to be fixed.
Pleasure & sensuality is possible for you, but you can only access it under the most specific & ideal circumstances... like when the kids are away, and your deadlines are met, and you've been working out, and your digestion is on track... and even then you need a substance to get you there... and even then you feel a sense of obligation with your partner (and that turns you off)... and, realistically those conditions take so much planning, it's exhausting... it's easier to stay turned off and ignore it altogether.
Life feels blah.
Like, things are fine, but you're tired. You're not connected with your desires or your passion or your creativity or your flow. You're not getting any younger, but at the end of every day you feel exhausted. You just want to scroll, binge a few episodes of your favourite show, and drag your old ass to bed.
You're sex-positive and curious... but you're hesitant about deeper sexual exploration and expression. You feel scared – of awkwardness, discomfort, danger, and the unknown. You know sensuality is important, but the thought of "going there" feels unsafe (or unprofessional, inappropriate, trashy, embarrassing, exploitative... or fill-in-the-blank).
You wish for a sisterhood where women support and celebrate each other, instead of competing or getting jealous... But you've been shamed, slut-shamed, or told that you're "too much".
You're awesome and you want more fun, laughter & magic in your life! You want to fall in love with yourself again!
You want to feel turned-on.
Benefits of Self-Lust
WHEN YOU CONNECT WITH YOUR TURN-ON, YOU WILL:
- Increase your confidence & magnetism. Unlock your potential to create, attract & receive... in your business, your relationships, everywhere.
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Feel more confident expressing your desires & boundaries
>> while flirting, during sex, in your daily life, even at work!
- Feel empowered and free in your sensuality and self-expression.
- Connect with your desires in pleasure, which adds jetfuel to your power to manifest & conjure.
- Activate your inner seductress and become a magnetic force for the things you want
>> learn how to seduce instead of chase.
- Feel safe in your feminine energy so that you can master the art of receiving.
- Transform the way you feel about your body, so you can OWN your beauty, from the inside out.
- Have better orgasms, and feel more pleasure in life in general.
- Thrive in sisterhood without the fear of judgment or jealousy.
- Become an enchanting presence, giving others permission to shine their light as well.
Afraid to turn on your radiance?
YOU'RE NOT ALONE.
If you are afraid to find your turn on, because it will attract unwanted attention, you're not alone!
You'd be amazed by the number of women I've spoken to who desire to reconnect with their radiance, turn-on, sensuality and erotic power... But avoid it because it makes life easier, either at home, at work, or in public.
Yet, the ironic truth is …knowledge is power.
When you are intimately in touch with your turn-on, you know how to wield it.
Just like when you take a self-defense course you no longer have to avoid dark alleys, because you’re equipped… when you know how to access and use your erotic power you no longer have to hide your sexuality in order to stay safe.
You deserve to feel the vitality that comes with being able to shine your light. You get to choose when and where you use it.
Hi, I'm Kate O'Connor
Mindset + Erotic Power Coach for Women
I help women heal their invisibility wound, SHINE their light, and create/attract/receive the life of their dreams!
Everything I teach, I have created for myself. From being chronically broke, lonely and depressed for almost a decade, to running a successful business, attracting adoration and support, and exuding unshakable confidence... I have healed, transformed, and alchemized my way to a life of love, abundance and constant surprising delights.
I manifested two beautiful pregnancies at 42 years old, mindsetted my way through a miscarriage, and home-birthed my healthy thriving baby like a badass.
As a survivor of rape, I am a fierce warrior against patriarchal bullshit, slut-shaming and Good-Girl-Conditioning.
As an ADHD Goddess, I have a deep understanding of the curses of an executive-functioning disorder... as well as the gifts and solutions that can help.
As a spiritual, witchy hippie-at-heart, I will help initiate you into connection with your deepest/highest source...
And as a recovering atheist & general all around NERD I can also back that sh*t up with some evidence-based science (if that turns you on).
I have helped my clients manifest and create loving relationships, new homes, better careers, healthier bodies, and hotter orgasms. My clients feel powerful and worthy of their dreams, and know how to call them in.
All of this is possible for you, too.
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